6 Things To Remember When Traveling With Your Partner

Going on​ holiday with a​ partner is​ the​ true test of​ a​ relationship. Here’s how to​ get it​ just right.

What makes a​ perfect partner? Someone who wants to​ have sex first in​ the​ morning,​ never asks you​ to​ go shopping with her and renounces all rights so the​ remote control on​ Saturday afternoons? Maybe,​ but no relationship,​ no matter how erotically charged and compatible,​ is​ proven until your first holiday together.

Ah,​ the​ holiday,​ that breeding ground of​ vice and corruptibility. you​ go on​ holiday to​ relax,​ but unless you​ know exactly what you’re getting into,​ going on​ holiday with a​ partner is​ likely to​ leave you​ more stressed than you​ were when you​ handed in​ your leave form.

There are sound reasons for couples fighting when they’re on​ holiday. Because you’re out of​ your familiar,​ everyday situation,​ holiday actually increase some stress levels. Also,​ because you’ve convinced yourself that you​ should be having a​ wonderful time during every second of​ your precious holiday small fights and irritations tend to​ get magnified. a​ lot of​ couples break up on​ holiday,​ over things that would not have mattered quite as​ much had they happened during their normal routine.

Everything is​ more intense when you’re on​ holiday because it’s such a​ valued time for most of​ us. But more holiday fights are caused by lack of​ planning than unrealistic expectations. you​ might not be able to​ do anything about your heightened holiday emotions,​ but you​ certainly can plan for physical eventualities,​ and in​ so doing hopefully prevent quarrels in​ Quebec and sulks in​ the​ Seychelles.

So if​ you​ are planning to​ go away with a​ partner – especially if​ it’s the​ first time the​ two of​ you​ will be taking a​ trip together – follow these rules and perhaps you’ll still want to​ look at​ each other when you​ return.

1. Make sure you​ both want go go to​ the​ same place – It’s no use dragging her off to​ go hiking in​ the​ Himalayas if​ she’d far rather be lying on​ a​ beach in​ Thailand. if​ your idea of​ a​ good holiday is​ vastly different from hers,​ perhaps you​ shouldn’t be together,​ or​ perhaps you​ should take separate holidays. or​ you​ could compromise and choose a​ place that offers both your types of​ enjoyment (such as​ a​ resort where one of​ you​ can go scuba diving while the​ other lounges next to​ the​ pool with a​ book and a​ pina colada).

Of course you​ might not know what her interests and idiosyncrasies actually are until you​ get there and find yourself shuffling from monument to​ monument to​ examine ancient firesoes,​ despite your longing to​ examine an​ affable pub. Holidays show us sides of​ our partners that we didn’t even suspect existed. That’s why it’s important to​ discuss you​ idea holiday before you​ book the​ hotel room. if​ you​ think she might be agreeing with your choice of​ destination only to​ please you,​ that’s her problem,​ but give haer a​ chance to​ voice her preferences.

It is​ always more fun to​ do the​ things you​ love with a​ partner who loves the​ same things,​ but it’s inevitable that there will be areas of​ common disinterest between you. Make it​ clear that you​ don’t mind pursuing your quest for the​ tallest redwood on​ your own,​ and make sure she knows that you​ don’t intend accompanying her on​ visits to​ Cambodian orphanages (unless you​ want to,​ of​ course).

2. Divide the​ money. Money and map navigation are the​ two most common causes of​ holiday tension. Money is​ perhaps more important because even if​ you’re lost,​ you’re still okay if​ you​ can afford a​ bed for the​ night.

No matter how compatible you​ might be in​ other spheres,​ in​ every couple there is​ a​ partner who is​ the​ spender. This is​ increased a​ hundred-fold when on​ holiday. the​ one with the​ more careful nature will shy away from impulse purchases,​ while the​ other spontaneously lashes out on​ memorabilia that you​ don’t need and that doesn’t fit into your suitcase.

Some couples try to​ prevent money fights by nominating one partner as​ holder of​ the​ resolve arguments by saying. “I’m the​ one in​ charge of​ the​ money and I say we can’t have more than one ice cream a​ day” is​ only going to​ lead to​ acrimony. Even if​ one of​ you​ is​ financing the​ holiday – in​ fact,​ especially need to​ have access to​ your own money,​ or​ the​ power imbalance will lead to​ bitterness.

Workout the​ budget for the​ entire trip. Say accommodation is​ paid for,​ work out how much you’ll need each day for food,​ and if​ one of​ you​ wants to​ exceed that budget on​ a​ particular day,​ then economize the​ next day. Divide your spending money in​ two and share it. Then,​ if​ one of​ you​ blows their entire allowance on​ a​ three-meter mahogany giraffe. It’s only faire for the​ partner who still has money to​ dictate how it’s spent.

3. No bagging the​ navigator- Democracy does not work when it​ comes to​ directions. Whether you’ve driving yourselves around or​ simply have to​ find taxis or​ stations in​ unfamiliar places,​ either draw lots or​ play roulette before you​ leave home to​ decide who will be in​ charge of​ navigation. or​ split the​ duties,​ but when one of​ you​ is​ driving or​ reading a​ map,​ the​ other keeps his or​ her mouth firmly shut.

Talk about this before you​ go,​ otherwise you’ll end up in​ a​ ditch when you​ slam on​ brakes in​ the​ pouring rain and shout,​ “Do you​ want to​ drive?” if​ she’s driving don’t say a​ word. And if​ you​ know she took a​ wrong turn,​ never admit later that you​ knew the​ right road to​ take all along.

Stick to​ this rule and there’s a​ good chance you’ll have a​ happy holiday and perhaps an​ entire life. the​ words “shouldn’t you​ have turned left there?” have been the​ death knell of​ too many relationships.

4.Find out if​ she snores. It’s seldom that a​ couple goes on​ holiday without first getting to​ know each other well,​ but it​ happens. you​ may have shared a​ bed,​ but do you​ know each other’s bathroom? Does she know it​ takes you​ half an​ hour to​ do your hair? Has she done her morning yoga routine in​ front of​ you? Are you​ familiar with other’s most irritating habits?

A first holiday can bring nasty surprises,​ if​ you​ discover on​ your fist night away that she grinds her teeth,​ it​ could ruin your trip. Alternatively you​ could be prepared for some irritation,​ and decide beforehand that,​ unless it’s a​ non-negotiable violation of​ every value you​ hold dear,​ you​ will allow certain annoyances to​ wash over you.

Say you​ know each other quite well already and have learnt tolerate each other’s curious habits. you​ could still find that being on​ holiday with her drives you​ nuts (or vice versa) because she thinks that being away means she doesn’t have to​ be considerate of​ your needs as​ would be when you’re both at​ home.

Being on​ holiday does mean you​ can relax,​ but it​ doesn’t mean turning into a​ complete slob. if​ she doesn’t clean up after you​ at​ home,​ don’t expect her to​ do it​ when you’re away. And if​ she thinks being on​ holiday gives her licence to​ use your razor on​ her legs,​ explain (gently) that it​ doesn’t.

5.Don’t combine buddies and new lovers – you​ have a​ friend with a​ pad in​ Manhattan who’s been begging you​ to​ come and stay. “Bring your new girlfriend”,​ he says. “You guys will have the​ best time here.” No you​ won’t. not if​ you’ve never been away together before and you​ want to​ spend a​ lot of​ time catching up with your old buddy. They might like each other and get along fine,​ but a​ first time holiday is​ about romance,​ and you’re not going to​ get that when you’re trying to​ divide your time and attention between a​ friend and a​ lover.

Perhaps neither of​ you​ is​ the​ romantic type and you’re both quite keen on​ the​ idea of​ going away with other people. if​ these are mutual friends,​ no problem,​ but going away to​ meet someone whom only one of​ you​ knows isn't a​ good idea,​ don’t do it​ if​ it's the​ first time the​ two of​ you​ will be spending time together.

You might also discover when on​ holiday that that one of​ you​ is​ more sociable that the​ other. She wants to​ invite those two couples you​ met on​ the​ train to​ join you​ for dinner; all you​ want to​ do is​ spend time alone with her. These are things you​ can’t predict. All you​ can do is​ reasonably explain your desire to​ socialize – or​ your objections to​ talking to​ strangers – and try to​ reach a​ compromise.

6.If it​ all goes wrong.- There is​ no way to​ guarantee that your first holiday together will be fight – free,​ but you​ can stop fights from turning your holiday into a​ nightmare. it​ may sound stilted,​ but if​ you​ can face up to​ it,​ talk about how you’ll deal with fights before you​ go away. Make a​ pact that neither of​ you​ will storm out,​ even if​ it​ means spending three days in​ silence. There’s nothing more mortifying than returning home alone. Having the​ staying power to​ see it​ through gives you​ time to​ get over fights.

If all else fails then remember to;

Always keep your own passport and ticket if​ she leaves with your documents,​ you’re going to​ look an​ idiot in​ a​ foreign place.
6 Things To Remember When Traveling With Your Partner 6 Things To Remember When Traveling With Your Partner Reviewed by Henda Yesti on July 09, 2018 Rating: 5

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